You have heard it said winners are willing to do the things that others are not. I have compiled my top ten “to do’s” that I have found to be foundational in creating success. I would be very interested in what you have found or noticed in your journey of life. This is certainly not an exhaustive list and would love to learn from others experience.
1. Do not complain, condemn, or criticize
Has this ever worked out for you? When you are around those who complain, put people down, and berate others, does it inspire you to want to continue to hang around them? There are dangers in these three C’s. You will soon be avoided, people will stop taking your calls, they will cross on the other side of the street. It is better to be a problem solver not a problem.
2. Lift others up
This is a gift for some, and for others…well, it is not a second thought because they are too busy playing in the three C’s. Those who can master the art of picking others up and making them feel better have the world at their feet. The benefits go both ways. Once you lift someone up, what happens to your inner-self? Right – you instantly feel better as well.
So go and find someone who you can add value to, make feel significant, and help out. Make an emotional deposit in their bank account and a funny thing happens – your emotional bank account grows as well. Now that is a ROI to brag about.
3. Think good thoughts about yourself and others GIGO – garbage in, garbage out. It is really simple; cause and effect are always in play. If you tell yourself bad things or think bad of others (cause) then the result is predictable (effect) – bad things. So ask yourself a question: Do I want good things or bad things? Yes, that is a loaded question, but sometimes we just need to be smacked in the head with the simple truth. The truth is you will not go and dump a trash can full of garbage on yourself or your boss or coworkers, would you? Then why are many of us constantly dumping garbage into our minds on a daily bases? Habit. Change your habits, change your life.
Make it a new practice to review what is good in your life on a daily basis, take 5 minutes and give yourself a high five for the good that is in you. Read good books, Listen to good uplifting music, hang around others who build you up. On the reverse, stop watching TV, listening to crappy music and hanging around those who tear you down. These are thing you get to choose, so choose wisely, my friend.
4. Think in terms of benefits, benefits, benefits
Most are thinking, me, me, me. What is in it for me? Take the advice from many successful people – look at the masses and do the opposite. Think, how can I benefit someone else, how can I help answer the “what is in it for me” for someone. It is all in the benefits. That is what people want – the benefits. So give it to them, and hold on for the success ride of your life.
If you are in sales – think benefits, if you are a parent – think benefits, if you are a business owner – think benefits. No one buys features; they buy what the feature delivers – the benefit. We all know this, but few practice it.
It melts hearts, it opens doors, it gets you appointments, it gets you the job, it brings health, it makes you feel good, it makes someone else feel good, it makes you look younger, it makes you better looking, it makes you feel younger, it is contagious, it reduces stress, it makes you more trustworthy, and last but not least it can make you a better leader.
And this is just all I can think of at the moment. A smile is a powerful tool in creating a life you can be excited about. Learn to smile; it will become your most valuable asset in no time flat.
6. Remember names
“Excuse me, can you repeat that please?” This is one question I am training myself on so that I will be good at remembering names. It is a skill I did not develop, but will soon have. A person’s name is the sweetest music they can hear. We can hear our names called or mentioned from across a crowded room. It is a sort of validation I believe, when we hear someone use our name it connects us together at a deeper level, it builds more trust and gives the other person a feeling of importance. How great is that?
“What did you say?” Be honest, when someone is constantly stopping you to repeat something, what starts going through your mind? Mine too. I start thinking, “Does this person really care,” “Is this person really interested in what I have to say,” or even “Does this person think they are more important than I am and are carrying on their own conversation in their head?” Listening – there are thousands of books written on this one topic, for struggling marriages, parents, bosses and more. But I believe if we could all just do one thing better, we would instantly listen better. Care more about them then yourself in that moment.
8. Be enthusiastic
Get fired up about life. We all get excited in different ways, so I am not saying that everyone needs to be a high energy, on fire, overly excited crazy person. That works for some, but not all. What I am saying is have the fire in your eyes, Have an intensity about you that shows others just by your look that you mean business. It is in the heart where enthusiasm lives, and the eyes where it is seen. Let people see it. It is contagious; it will help others achieve more for the team, for their own goals. You are unstoppable when you have a genuine enthusiasm burning within.
9. Keep things positive – avoid negative parties
This relates back to the three C’s and thinking good thoughts about yourself and others, but here you are stopping an internal downward spiral of negative thinking. The “woe be me” stage. Now, I am not one for believing that everything is always good or going well. Life is life and you are not in control of everything, just how you react to it.
When bad things do happen, I have found it best to step back, take a deep breath, and ask “What is the fastest way out of this situation?” I have also gone the other way – the blame game. Lashing out and blaming others, asking stupid questions like “Why me,” “Why now,” and “Why can I never just catch a break?” These are the subtle negative things that can really destroy a life. I was in this place not too long ago, but praise the Lord, I have a wife who knows how to reach me quickly and lift me up. Once you start to focus on the solutions I promise you there will be no time for negative parties.
10. Look people in the eye
Nothing turns me off faster than people not looking me in the eyes when we talk. This is all about confidence, so if you have a hard time looking people in the eyes, then it may be time to work on your confidence. Know who you are and be happy with it. That is the secret to confidence. Stop trying to be other people. Be you. A book I read many years ago that help me to see this is called “Confidence: How to Succeed at Being Yourself” by Alan Loy McGinnis. I suggest you get it and read it.
Having confidence is a liberating feeling; it is a cornerstone of those who win.
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